You need to show up and be productive at work. You need to find time for your relationship with your spouse and children, and you need to somehow find time for yourself and your own emotional and physical needs.
Balancing life's demands when your aging parent needs so much is daunting for even the most balanced person.
Doctor’s appointments, their chores, their bills, figuring out their insurance and constantly checking on them to make sure they’re okay.
Are you coping with advice or criticism from people who think they know what is best? Balancing what others want or need with what you feel is right and what you are actually able to do, is exhausting and discouraging.
Your life coaching sessions belong to you. They are your time to slow down, and evaluate the things that are on your mind and agenda. I am your partner. We will collaborate, and I will help you reach your goals.
Some families function well and some don't. It's great when siblings and relatives communicate and share responsibilities, but families aren't perfect.
Perhaps your relationship with your loved one is strained after years of dysfunction. It might have taken a lot of time and effort to establish a comfortable way to manage your relationship with your parents and siblings and now you are having to jump back in as a caregiver.
It is understandable for those old, negative feelings are rising to the surface. Coaching will help you manage them.
Maybe you're an only child and overwhelmed by the responsibility and pressure to handle EVERYTHING. Or perhaps you do have siblings, living far away or close by, who are simply not contributing.
If you are the one who is left to make decisions and provide all of the hands on support, it is understandable to feel overwhelmed and resentful.
There aren't many perfect families. Life is complicated. We will strategize and find solutions to keep you strong.
Medical problems are a major source of stress.
If your mother or father is in the hospital because of a medical emergency or an exacerbation of a chronic condition, doctors are probably asking for your input and want you to make decisions. Your loved one probably has their own idea about what they want and it might not be what is in their best interest.
When they get home they are going to need assistance. Chances are there is no support system in place for this and decisions need to be made quickly.
We will assess your options and you will be able to make choices you can live with.
Getting a diagnosis of dementia is devastating, scary, and totally overwhelming. What does it mean for your parent, yourself, and the rest of your family?
And what about your plans for the future? Plans will likely change, and you will need to find a way to balance the needs of your parent with the responsibilities you already have.
A problem in thinking, and the loss of independence that results is a huge worry. If you're noticing that your mother or father is more absent-minded, confused, maybe even more frequently angry and defensive, you're probably becoming uneasy.
Bring these issues to your coaching sessions. We'll talk about what is going on and make a plan that will help you manage.
Taking care of yourself is probably the last thing on your to-do list. Your loved ones are your priority but you're starting to crack under the pressure.
How are you coping? How do you handle the stress and feelings of anxiety, anger, guilt, depression and sadness?
It's your life too, and you need to have time and energy for your own relationships and people who are important to you.
Our sessions are time that belongs only to you. It's your time to pause, talk, and re-assess. I will help you sort through feelings and priorities and find meaning in the middle of all of the craziness.
End of life conversations are uncomfortable and scary. It is a very emotional time and it is hard to think clearly when death is close. How can you make the right decisions when emotions are at the forefront? Even the smallest decision can feel impossible when medical professionals can't give exact information.
You might be hearing terms like:
Palliative Care, Hospice, Do Not Resuscitate, Comfort Care, Healthcare Proxy, Living Will, and Power of Attorney.
How well do you understand it all? What does it mean when medical professionals use these terms, and how soon should you be talking to your loved ones about them? Knowledge is power here and it will help you talk to your parents and family members about these delicate issues.
We will clarify terms, determine priorities, and help you feel more comfortable having these discussions.